The Parenting DeficitDemos, 1993 - 69 pages |
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Page 22 - ... readily if we remained committed to the importance of the upbringing of the young. The fact is, given the same economic and social conditions, in poor neighborhoods one finds decent and hardworking youngsters right next to antisocial ones. Likewise, in affluent suburbs one finds antisocial youngsters right next to decent, hardworking ones. The difference is often a reflection of the homes they come from. What Can We Do? What we need now, first of all, is to return more hands and, above all, more...
Page 13 - ... partners often means a repeatedly disrupted educational coalition. Each change in participants involves a change in the educational agenda for the child. Each new partner cannot be expected to pick up the previous one's educational post and program. The educational input that each adult provides is deeply affected by his or her total personality and upbringing. As a result, changes in parenting partners means, at best, a deep disruption in a child's education, though of course several disruptions...
Page 29 - Personally I do not know of a single instance in which the children were not harmed by divorce, although there are significant differences in the extent of harm, and clearly some rotten marriages can cause as much harm as (or even more harm) than divorce. Family expert David Popenoe effectively summarizes the problem divorce poses for children in his discussion of the "new familism": It is a fact that much of the voluntary family breakup occurring recently has a negative impact on children. Certainly,...
Page 44 - Further, it is here that two individuals are in a position to construct a "world of their own," again something that is not easy to do elsewhere amid the complexities of modern life.
Page 19 - ... or not they are aware of this fact. They choose between a more rapid climb up the social ladder and spending more time with their children. Communitarians would add that in the long run parents will find more satisfaction and will contribute more to the community if they heed their children more and their social status less. But even if they choose to order their priorities the other way around, let it not be said that they did not make a choice. Careerism is not a law of nature. We return then...
Page 22 - Gang warfare in the streets, massive drug abuse, a poorly committed work force, and a strong sense of entitlement and weak sense of responsibility are, to a large extent, the product of poor parenting. True, economic and social factors also play a role. But a lack of effective parenting is a major cause, and the other factors could be handled more readily if we remained committed to the importance of the upbringing of the young. The fact is, given the same economic and social conditions, in poor...
Page 4 - AKING a child is a moral act. Obviously it obligates the parents to the child. But it also obligates the parents to the community. We must all live with the consequences of children who are not brought up properly, whether bad economic conditions or self-centered parents are to blame. Juvenile delinquents do more than break their parents' hearts, and drug abusers do more than give their parents grief.
Page 30 - A national health survey shows that children from single-parent families or stepfamilies were two to three times more likely to have had emotional or behavioral problems than those who had both of their biological parents in the home.
Page 54 - The Good Family Man: Fatherhood and the Pursuit of Happiness in America," Working Paper No. 12, issued by the Institute for American Values, 1991. For a work that comes to dissimilar conclusions, see Paul L. Adams, Judith R. Milner, and Nancy A. Schrepf, Fatherless Children (New York: John Wiley & Sons, 1984); for further discussion see Sandra Scarr, Mother Care/Other Care (New York: Basic Books, 1984).
Page 7 - ... behind, rolls it up, and snorts cocaine. One might add that the father didn't even call. The fact is that parenting cannot be carried out over the phone, however well meaning and loving the calls may be. It requires physical presence. The notion of "quality time...